You define your own life. Don’t let other people write your script. ~ Oprah Winfrey
Saying, “Yes, I choose me!” is a courageous step in transforming our lives. It’s the beginning of a tremendous journey, and while we don’t know the directions along the way, we affirm the realization of our divine ideas, dreams and goals. What happens when we get excited about our “A Ha!” moments? What do we do when we finally make the connection that our lives are meant for something bigger and we are going to do something about it? We SHARE! We share it with everyone. We share it with friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, and from to time the person standing in line with us at Starbucks. Why do we share so freely? Why do we reach out to individuals that are never positive and find pleasure in sharing misery? Validation. Approval. Confirmation. Endorsement. Wait a minute…. Just who is writing your script anyway?
Let’s face it, while discovering our life purpose or becoming aware of our divine gifts, talents and skills is exciting, it’s can also feel scary. We know that our lives are about to change. While positively challenging and stretching ourselves beyond anything we’ve every done or dreamt before, we are growing. The decision to step outside of our comfort zone doesn’t include a map. We embrace faith and positive beliefs. YET… old stuff shows up that makes us doubt our direction. This is normal! How we choose to see, receive and react to fear and uncertainty is what matters the most. When the old tapes get replayed, stop and allow yourself the time to discover why this has shown up (again). This old belief could be ready to be healed in whole or in part.
Yesterday, I posted something on my Life Design/Design Your Success Facebook page about something trending on Twitter. It was the hashtag #Ilovewhen. Millions of people around the world were sharing at the same time throughout the day what they loved. How wonderful to have a positive, globally conscious event. I shared mine with my Facebook community: “#Ilovewhen I witness empowered women walk their talk!”, and within an hour someone I didn’t know responded to my post with the words, “No thanks, I have a life.” Clearly she had time in her life to post something negative and nasty ~ something I DO NOT tolerate. Now here’s the thing, I could have allowed one thoughtless statement bother me and place doubt on my putting it out there at all. I could have allowed “my script” to change and go in a direction that is safer. I could have decided that moving forward I would only write or post about things that don’t cause negative feedback. Who am I serving by not embracing my authentic self? No one!
Now let’s get back to the need for validation, approval, confirmation and endorsement of the steps we are taking and the lifestyle we are transforming. It is understandable to seek advice and guidance in areas where we aren’t knowledgeable. I am not a numbers person. I do not do my own taxes. It was important for me, as my business grows, to find an accountant and financial adviser that gets me and what I do, and also has aligned interests and passions. It takes time to develop our circle of supporters. We aren’t looking for “yes” men and women, but rather people who have our best interests at heart. This isn’t about validation, but about finding the right and perfect people along your journey that help to bring about the realization of your dreams, goals and ideas.
As much as we don’t want others and external influences writing our scripts, we MUST be mindful that we aren’t guilty of the same. How often have we reached out to save and/or fix someone? I know it’s far more interesting to work on someone else’s problem than to spend time focusing on what you have going on. I was a professional “fixer” for YEARS! Trust me, if it doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t work when you try it on others. While you have the best intentions in the world to assist someone so they don’t struggle or hurt, take a moment to think how you might potentially keep them from a very important part of their experience.
Several years ago, a woman shared with a group of us a story about purchasing a butterfly kit for the couple’s recently adopted daughter. They adopted her when she was 12 years old and there were emotional struggles. The young girl loved nature and they thought purchasing the kit would be a wonderful activity the new family could share together. The caterpillar eventually turned into a cocoon and every day their daughter would race straight home to school to see if the butterfly had arrived. One morning, as they were getting ready for work and school, the noticed that butterfly had broken out of the right side of the cocoon. Its right wing was moving back and forth, but it appeared the left wing was struggling. The little girl raced home after school to see that the butterfly was still working to release itself from the remainder of its temporary home. She was very sad and worried that the butterfly was hurt. It became more and more difficult for her to watch the butterfly struggle with the remainder of the cocoon. Finally, she couldn’t take watching the butterfly’s pain, and she gently helped its left wing find release. The result? The left wing didn’t work. The young girl hadn’t broken the wing. The wing was still in development and struggling to release itself from the left side of the cocoon built its strength.
When someone attempts to write your script, and you allow it to happen, you are missing out on developing and building your strength. You are excluding dips, turns, curves and forks in the road that are meant for your learning and growth. Know this affirmation for yourself: External influences DO NOT define my life. I write my own script! This is your time. This is your life. Own it. Claim it. Be it.
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Humanity’s misfortune is when we don’t realize the very gifts we are! We don’t serve the rest of the world or ourselves by playing small. Live your life big! Own your truth! We must embrace the knowing that we deserve to live a life we love, one that supports who and what we are. We need to be willing to say, ‘Yes! I choose me!’
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© 2011 Michele Mattia. All Rights Reserved.
Michele, a nationally recognized speaker on both tv and radio, is an Inspirational Speaker, Best Selling Author, Life Design Coach, New Thought Leader and Creative Strategist. During a silent retreat five years ago, she asked herself the question: “What would I do right now if I wasn’t worried about the “how”?” What manifested next was nothing short of extraordinary! Specializing in Life Design, Michele’s mission is to inspire, support and co-create all possibilities her clients and audiences are courageous enough to demand. She motivates others to claim their unique gifts and talents, while owning that they deserve to create a dynamic and delicious life. Michele believes we must embrace the knowing that we deserve to live a life we love, one that supports who and what we are. We need to be willing to say, “Yes! I choose me!” To learn more about Michele and receive Michele’s Daily Dash, an empowering eZine, go to www.MicheleMattia.com
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