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I was raised to believe I could do anything provided I gave 110%; however, I did not receive the tutorial that I can ask and expect to receive anything my heart desires. My lists to Santa Claus were never outrageous, and as I got older when friends and family would ask me what I wanted as gifts I would just sort of shrug my shoulders and say I don’t need anything or I don’t know. It never felt okay to state what I wanted. In my mind, I would come across as materialistic, greedy and selfish. What I’ve learned and practiced in the last five years is that we were put on this planet to live what we love, make a difference and receive the good we richly deserve.

When I work with my clients, I always start with the question: What would you do now if you knew you could not fail? Since we immediately begin to edit our dreams to make them “realistic”, I also add the caveat that money, time and energy are not obstacles ~ visualize they are limitless. We’re supposed to dream big, in fact, we should be dreaming as big as we did when we were five years old. These are exciting times and doing what you love should be an exhilarating and creative process! By opening the pathway between our hearts and our minds, divine ideas, dreams and goals effortlessly emerge. We begin to connect the dots and see how what comes naturally to us is aligned with a particular field of interest or several interests. By removing doubt of what isn’t possible, clarity sets in and we envision how we can create a career that envelops several of our unique gifts and talents or develop two business that can work alongside one another.

What happens when it comes time to list our goals? While we allowed ourselves the openness to creatively brainstorm big dreams when it comes time to goal setting, we often freeze up. The idea of putting down on paper that I want a three-floor apartment in New York City or I want a career that allows me to travel all over the world can make us feel self-serving. Initially, I’ll read or hear goals from people like I want clarity, I want peace of mind, I want love, or I want happiness. It makes them feel better listing non-material things. Please don’t get me wrong, it’s wonderful to want clarity, peace of mind, love and happiness; however, those aren’t goals; they’re choices. If you want clarity, choose to be clear with your words, thoughts and actions. If you want peace of mind, choose to be peaceful toward yourself and others. If you want love, be love. If you want happiness, choose to be happy and grateful for what is in your life now knowing good is on the way.

There is nothing wrong with wanting material things, and for that matter, you should center on how your good will benefit the lives of those around you. What is important to remember is when you’re setting goals is to be specific and listen to your heart. If your goal is to find a husband and you’re not specific about the when, where and how, you could end up with husbands showing up that are not available. By the way, these goals are your goals ~ not your families and not your friends. We cannot bring genuine joy into the lives of others when we deny ourselves our authentic self. When you think about something you want, does your heart start beating fast and you feel like you can’t sit still? Sounds like a divine goal to me! You deserve to live the life of your dreams. Shine on!

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